It’s That Time of Year Again!


It’s my Vegan-versary!

It has been six years. Yes, SIX YEARS!  I am so glad I adopted this lifestyle.  I have never felt better about myself and my life.  Maybe it’s partly because I’m in my 30s now too but I am comfortable with who I am and the decisions I’ve made.

Looking back on the past six years, I have realized how much I’ve changed, and it’s not just food-based.

I used to be super accommodating, always bringing my own food to events or just ordering that salad on the menu and eating something more substantial when I got home.  I did this because I felt that I made a choice to make my lifestyle different than those around me.

Now I don’t make as much of an effort with that anymore.  I have chosen not to attend events or show up after/leave before the food.  I have also made the sure that any gatherings that are about myself, my husband, or Baby Boy (like birthdays or the baby shower) are now 100%, apologetically vegan.  I realize that may seem extreme to some, especially the skipping events part. It wasn’t a decision I took lightly.  There were patterns of behavior that I just got tired of putting up with.

First, I want to start off with saying that I have been very lucky and my parents have been very supportive of my veganism and for that I am very thankful.  They are more than willing to try out vegan recipes and restaurants with us.  They even signed up for Veganuary this year!  They didn’t do every meal of every day vegan but they started off the month making one dinner a week fully vegan.  By the end of the month they were having vegan dinners twice a week.   That is so huge!  In fact, they want to continue to incorporate vegan meals into their every day life and I am so proud!

That is one side of my ‘veganism coin’.

The other side is less supportive.  There are people that have never (not once) tried to be accommodating aside from telling us to bring our own food.  There was a family Christmas where our hosts went full Pinterest crazy and made the fanciest of dishes.  I brought some muffins to go with the breakfast theme (unasked because I thought it would be polite to bring food).  The following year when they hosted again I asked in advance if we could bring anything (twice) and was told no (twice).  Being optimistic, I thought maybe they went Pinterest crazy again and there were some vegan stuff they made! When we arrived, there was not ONE vegan piece of food.  They looked like deer in headlights when we said we didn’t bring anything or ourselves to eat.

After that and the many other times we received invites that went something like “I made BLTs” or “there’s no reason we can’t meet for ice cream”, we decided to not be in attendance while they were eating their meals (which included leaving a meet and greet early that was in celebration of OUR Baby Boy).

On the same side of that coin with other family, we had plans to have a celebration lunch at someone’s house.  This way we could still eat our food and they could have theirs.  A few days before the event, the place was changed to a local pizza restaurant.  No vegan options. Period.  I was not going to argue since it was not my celebration, so instead I sent a reply that said since this place did not have vegan (and organic) options, to go ahead and start without us and we would come after everyone had eaten.

I spent too many years tip-toeing around others feelings and only giving half truths when my feelings are not being taken into account.  I’m not being mean or accusatory, I’m just speaking my truth…my full truth now! (Also I made a New Year’s resolution to be more honest).  And it sure felt liberating sending that reply with my FULL truth.

Last week, I was listening to an older episode of Vegan Warrior Princesses Attack podcast and they were discussing making choices that were exactly like what I had gone through.  They said that sure your choice to not attend might seem extreme but your family made a choice to not accommodate you (you know the drill-show up because it’s important to grandma but we haven’t made anything you can eat).

There was a quote from one of the hosts that really resonated with me.

“At the end of the day, it’s not about food. It’s about feeling safe and accepted by the people we care most about.” 

Yes. That is exactly it and I couldn’t put it better myself.  My veganism is so deeply rooted in me that it’s part of who I am.  By others ignoring it by not putting any effort or even talking to me about it, that makes me feel like they don’t accept me. Ignoring the pink elephant in the corner doesn’t make it go away.

So instead of making a big stink about everything and getting into fights, etc., sometimes it’s just easier to set boundaries and distance myself.  And you know what?  After six years, I have learned that that’s ok.



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A Few Changes


I hope that everyone had a great holiday and new year!  Mine was filled with happiness, laughter, and not as much rest as hoped but full of fun regardless!  Baby Boy had a great first Christmas and we learned he loves sledding!

Now that we’ve crossed over to 2018, I’ve set my sites onto what I am hoping to accomplish in this year.  I decided for the first time, pretty much ever, to make resolutions.  Of course, this blog is on the list but I’ve decided to make a few changes. As you may have noticed, last year I tried to post weekly and to be honest that left me stressed and a little burnt out. This blog was started as a way for me to get my feelings about certain subjects in the vegan world or in my personal life.  I found myself feeling dread sometimes when trying to come up with content.  So, I’ve decided to take a step down to posting once a month.  I know, I know, it’s a terrible loss!  Leaving the world with less of my thoughts-bahahaha-but we’ll get along anyway.

So, one of my resolutions is to write twice a month.  One for the blog and one for personal reasons. Writing was always fun for me and I want to keep it that way.

Some of my other resolutions include:

Being more kind to myself and others.
Being more honest-this is specifically related to our families and our vegan lifestyle, and quite honestly (ha!) this is what the blog was for originally. Now I want to bring some honesty into my personal life.
Have two new experiences-because experiences are more important than things.
One new watercolor painting per month.

I keep adding more as I see things I want to change or accomplish in my daily life.

I would advise everyone to create a list of resolutions for a new year and better you in 2018!

Thank you for continuing to hang with my here at HashtagGoVegan!



Hello there wonderful readers!  I’m saddened to tell you that HashtagGoVegan is going to take a short break. Between work, BB constantly getting into everything, and the holidays it’s been hard to keep up with posting weekly.  We hope to be back asap after the new year with new posts!

I did a post not too long ago about podcasts so while we’re gone I would suggest giving some a listen. I have been listening weekly to Vegan Warrior Princesses Attack which is wonderful and funny (*language warning*) AND Evanna Lynch (Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter movies) has her new podcast out as well, The ChickPeeps.  It’s very much at the beginning stages right now but still a fun listen. (There are many more vegan podcasts too!)

Have a wonderful holiday season and we’ll see you in 2018!

If you have any posts you’d like to see or questions you’d like answered, please leave us a comment!

Trash Island

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There is a new place that we can all go on vacation…no it’s not the Island of Misfit Toys, though you could probably find some there. It’s a place where we can visit all of our old trash! Wouldn’t you be excited to see it again? Yeah me neither and I don’t think the inhabitants are very excited to see it either.

It’s really sad actually. According to the article “approximately 68% of the beach’s debris is buried in the sediment. Altogether, there are an estimated 37.7 million items, weighing 17.6 tons, accumulated on the island”. Obviously that’s a pretty staggering number and the ramifications for the animals are terrible! Some are eating it; some are using it for their homes; some are getting tangled and it’s also disrupting the sea turtles from laying their eggs.


This is gross, yes. We should try to clean as much as we can. We should also create and use more biodegradable materials-this is something we can do in our everyday lives to try to make a difference.

The funny thing is, this isn’t just happening on some far off island. There are places like that right here, of course on a much smaller scale.

My husband and I used to live near a beach and every time we’d go for a walk we’d see glass and plastic and trash that had become visible from the waves taking the sand out to sea. This wasn’t new trash. This was old…years and years old. We watched people walk right by beer cans that were fully exposed in the sand and let their kids play in the water right next to that floating plastic bag, tangled with fishing line. We saw very few people pick anything up.

Next time you see some trash somewhere that it doesn’t belong, think about this crab using a plastic tub as a shell, or that seagull that has eaten so much garbage that it can’t consume actual food anymore, and pick it up. It doesn’t take much to make a difference in your own community.

Nursery Rhymes

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Recently a family member who loves nursery rhymes got Baby Boy (BB) some nursery rhyme books and said This Little Piggy to him. Of course I knew many nursery rhymes growing up but I never realized just how creepy most of them are until now. We decided to usher in a new era and get rid of the books and teach him new stories and songs.

I’ve listed some famous nursery rhymes and my thoughts about them including my vegan thoughts of course, starting with the one that got me going on this rant.

This Little Piggy
This little piggy went to market,
This little piggy stayed home,
This little piggy had roast beef
This little piggy had none,
And this little piggy cried wee wee wee all the way home.

Pretty sure they didn’t mean the pig went to the farmers’ market to buy some nice produce for his family…Is that why the other was crying ‘wee wee wee’? Because it just saw its brother being murdered?

Eeny meeny miny moe
Eeny, meeny, miny, moe,
Catch a tiger by the toe.
If he hollers, let him go,
Eeny, meeny, miny, moe.

New 1st verse needed: “Hi I’m Johnny Knoxville and welcome to Jackass”.

Baa baa black sheep
Baa, baa, black sheep,
Have you any wool?
Yes, sir, yes, sir,
Three bags full;
One for the master,
And one for the dame,
And one for the little boy
Who lives down the lane.

This was probably written at a time when the farmers were more careful sheering than they are now. But still, animal exploitation.

Little Miss Muffet
Little Miss Muffet
Sat on a tuffet,
Eating her curds and whey;
Along came a spider
Who sat down beside her
And frightened Miss Muffet away.

Again, animal products which also sound like a pretty gross mixture – curds and whey.

Rock-a-by baby
Rock-a-by baby
On the tree top,
When the wind blows
The cradle will rock.
When the bough breaks,
The cradle will fall,
And down will fall baby
Cradle and all.

Great job putting your kid to sleep with this. Now they’ll have nightmares about falling out of a tree.

Jack and Jill
Jack and Jill went up the hill
To fetch a pail of water
Jack fell down and broke his crown,
And Jill came tumbling after

So they went up a hill to get some water, ended up falling all the way down and breaking their heads.  Lovely imagery there.

It’s raining; it’s pouring
It’s raining; it’s pouring.
The old man is snoring.
He went to bed and bumped his head,
And he couldn’t get up in the morning.

It’s raining; it’s pouring.
The old woman is snoring.
She went to bed and bumped her head,
And she couldn’t get up in the morning.

It’s raining; it’s pouring.
The children are snoring.
They went to bed and bumped their heads,
And they couldn’t get up in the morning.

So basically, at best they all have concussions.

Humpty Dumpty
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the king’s horses and all the king’s men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again.

They never said Humpty Dumpty was an egg…

Peter Peter Pumpkin Eater
Peter, Peter pumpkin eater,
Had a wife but couldn’t keep her;
He put her in a pumpkin shell
And there he kept her very well.

Peter, Peter pumpkin eater,
Had another and didn’t love her;
Peter learned to read and spell,
And then he loved her very well.

Nice story about an abusive relationship.

There was an old woman who lived in a shoe
There was an old woman who lived in a shoe.
She had so many children, she didn’t know what to do;
She gave them some broth without any bread;
Then whipped them all soundly and put them to bed.

And now child abuse.

Three Blind Mice
Three blind mice. Three blind mice.
See how they run. See how they run.
They all ran after the farmer’s wife,
Who cut off their tails with a carving knife,
Did you ever see such a sight in your life,
As three blind mice?

Aren’t most mice basically blind? Odds are they were just searching for food and the lady decided to maim them.

The majority of these are enough to cause pretty severe nightmares. Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star, The Itsy Bitsy Spider, Row Row Row your Boat, and Hickory Dickory Dock are some that are actually nice, which I’m surprised. Other than those, I think we’ll just going to sing The Beatles to BB instead.


Opening Day

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On Saturday it’s the first day here in the Midwest for a weeks worth of fear, Blaze orange, and bullets.  Get ready for deer carcasses being displayed as trophies as a way to show off ‘manliness’.

Please enjoy my Double Standards post from 2014 to remind us of this time of year.




Yes sorry, it’s a repost.

This one time at band camp…

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A big part of my old job was to schedule all the ins and out of people attending conferences.  Sometimes scheduling a dinner was a part of that.

For this one particular conference I was told that a dinner guest only ate Halal and that I needed to check with the restaurant to see what they could do.  Ok, no problem… but first I had to do a quick search for what Halal meant. Basically, it is a very specific set of rules a Muslim needs to follow to slaughter the animal. (In the simplest of terms).

So me…the vegan…had to call a restaurant and explain the whole situation to them. They asked for me to call back later when the manager was there. When I hung up my co-workers turned around and asked me what was going on because they heard me, the known vegan, use the term “slaughter” multiple times.

I ended up calling back and the restaurant was able to provide this guest with two meals to their specifications but not before I had to say “slaughter” about 10 more times.

No Excuses

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A co-worker brought in a treat the other day and she said, “too bad you’re not Kosher instead because it’s Kosher certified”. Then she said that she agrees with the philosophy of being Kosher and told me that they have regulations on how the animals have to be humanely slaughtered.

I almost said that they all die the same but instead I said, “Vegans don’t have to worry about that”.

Then she said that she likes bacon too much and if she had to give that up then she’d die.

I don’t remember where I heard this (podcast, other blog…) but I decided to repeat it; I said, “well if you’re interested and bacon is the one thing you cant give up then why no try to give up other things except bacon.”

I don’t think that she was that interested but I put an ember in her than may just turn into a flame one day.

I think this is a great response to the “I cant give up ___” comment. Respond with “You could always keep eating ___ but give up everything else”.

No excuses now *wink wink*

Vegans in TV: Update

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American Housewife just had an episode last week (10/18) where the youngest decided to be a vegan. This is a direct recap which is FULL of spoilers an direct quotes.

Quick show premise: “Regular” family moves into a rich neighborhood where all the PTA moms are stay-at-home, super skinny, and really rich. Regular mom, Katie, is boisterous and does not fit in and she does not care.

Quick background for this episode: Katie’s oldest daughter started dating a boy who is a vegan and his mom (Tara Summers) is the stereotypical outspoken vegan. This mom does not like Katie and vice versa. Now, Katie’s youngest daughter made friends with Tara’s daughter. They had a play date where vegan mom took the kids to a petting zoo and youngest daughter, Anna Kat, came home saying, “I learned some very disturbing things about where meat comes from.” And she decided to become a vegan. Katie is not happy with this because from her own mouth she has to “cook two separate meals for each meal”.

So she decides to go and have a talk with her daughter.  Here is the conversation:

Katie: “Anna Kat, animals are actually happy to be eaten. We’re doing them a solid.”
Anna Kat: “Non-vegan food is full of hormones Mama.  Do you want me to get my period when I’m nine?”
Katie Inner Monologue: I’m gonna kill Tara Summers [vegan mom]
Anna Kat: “I am a vegan. I will always be a vegan and there is nothing you can do to change my mind.”
Katie: “I’ll give you 10 bucks to stop.”
Anna Kat: “Please…”

Leaves the room and her husband asks how it went. “She almost convinced me that cheese has feelings. I had to get out of there”.

(By the way, they have a pig for a pet because in a previous episode the dad ordered a pig for a cookout, went to pick it up and saw it was a young, live pig. He couldn’t slaughter the pig for dinner so he bought some already slaughtered pig to serve instead.)

The next scene Katie says to Anna Kat: “You’re coming with me to shop for your very own dinner”.
Anna Kat: “That sounds like fun!”

They go to a grocery store looks and awful lot like whole foods.

Katie’s inner monologue: Welcome to hell. This aisle is filled with all sorts of vegan nightmares. Here’s some deodorant that doesn’t work, something called yeast butter, and ooo! a guy with his hair in a bun.  He looks homeless but he’s spending 15 bucks on hemp milk.
Katie: “Ok for dinner I was just thinking I’ll fill this thing [eggplant] with this slimy stuff [tofu].”
Anna Kat: “As long as it didn’t have parents I’ll eat it.”

A woman reaches next to Katie for something on the top shelf and Katie sees she has unshaved armpits.

Inner monologue: Everything in this aisle is all so natural, ugh i need a bath and a turkey leg.

Tara, vegan mom, shows up.

Tara: “Katie Otto in my aisle buying tofu!”
Katie: “Give it a rest Tara.”
Tara: “No its still fun. Anna Kat did you know that leather comes from cow skin? Your mother’s purse used to be an animal. (feels fake leather on purse) Oh no not this purse. ”

Katie turns to unshaved woman. “Excuse me, would you please get that blue jar of Veganaise for me?”
Woman: “My pleasure”.

She grabs the jar and her unshaved armpit ends up right in vegan mom’s face.


Katie: “Sloppy Joes?”
Anna Kat: “Sloppy Joes are my favorite.”
Katie: “They are?! Too bad you don’t eat meat anymore. Your dinner is this. It’s called brown-loaf (looks like brown stew with huge chunks of tofu), and it tastes exactly like it sounds.”

Ick-noise from brother.

Katie: “How does it taste Anna Kat? Brown and loafy?”
Anna Kat: “Tastes like dirt…I love dirt!…….brown loaf is my new favorite!”

Katie looks for friends for advice and one friend actually gives good advice:

Friend:  “If you shut your kids down all the time they’ll start doing things behind your back…your kids need to know you as a parent but at a certain age they need to know you as a person. Give them your heart and give them your soul and they’ll know they can come to you with anything.”

Next scene where Katie is taking her friend’s advice.  She talked with her oldest daughter about dying her hair and that got fixed.  Dad comes downstairs and exclaimed that he can’t find his belts.

Anna Kat: “Leather belts are made out of animals so I gave them all a proper burial.”

Katie: “Kids I made a new recipe. Veggie chicken.”
Anna Kat: “What’s it made out of?”
Katie: “Tofu”.
Anna Kat: “And whats the bone made out of?”
Katie: “…also tofu…”

Anna Kat eats it and Katie smiles like shes won.

Katie’s Inner Monologue: Even though I talked things out with Taylor [older daughter] Anna Kat is eight. I don’t have to treat her like a person. Lying to her works just fine.


Ok wow…I don’t know where to start with this episode. I actually liked this show but I’m starting to question it now.

Alright I’ll just jump right in. God forbid your kid makes their own decision. And now you feel inconvenienced…I feel like I’ve said this before…everyone can eat vegan food.

Should I say it again to make it stick?


It’s literally food…why can’t people understand that?

Ok so back to the show: The I’ll have to “cook two separate meals for each meal”. Why? Why can’t this mom just make the same meal since it’s too hard for them to give up meat, and use non-animal products in the sides?

is it casserole night? Make the casserole with egg replacer and butter replacer and then put the meat and cheese in separate bowls and add it to the top. Or use a cheese replacer and then only have the meat separate. How is that hard? How is that two separate meals? This would be a way to be more supportive of your child’s choices (yeah she’s only eight but she needs to start sometime) and be a better parent.

That comment: I don’t have to treat her like a person. Lying to her works just fine. Seriously with that shit?! I know she’s your baby and will always be your baby but come on. “I don’t have to treat her like a person”. I don’t really know what to say to this but I feel sorry for your kids. (Yes I know this is just a TV show).

I mean, what is this show trying to say? I’d rather lie to my kid than be inconvenienced a teeny bit? I mean, it’s not like this is the 50s and vegan was very difficult to find. You live in the age of the internet…there is tons of information out there!

I think what really makes me upset over this show is because I don’t want this to happen in my life. If I ask someone what is in a dish I expect the truth, not something I want to hear. If I didn’t care about what I put in my body I probably wouldn’t be asking anyway, but I do care. It’s one of the things that matters most to me and I would HOPE that no one would lie to me.

Yeah so I’m going to go think about this show more…what do you want to bet that they never bring up the eight year old being a vegan again? Though I’d love to see what happens when she finds out her mom has been lying the entire time.